Forgiveness is a process.
We often think that we can flip a switch and forgive someone. But it’s not that easy. Sometimes it takes time and repetition. It takes digging down to the root of the issue and not just cutting off the top and hoping it doesn’t grow back.
This is the case for both the forgiver and the forgiven.
If I forgive you, I act differently towards you. I show you grace. I treat you as though you matter. Because you do.
If you forgive me, I also act differently towards you. I’m thankful for you. I treat you as though you matter. Because you do.
Forgiveness isn’t easy. But it is freeing.
Jesus said to forgive someone 70 x 7 times. Because that’s a lot. And because once we lose count of the number of times, we have stopped keeping records of wrongs and we have started to love the way Jesus does.
“Then Peter came and said to him, “Lord, if another member of the church sins against me, how often should I forgive? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “Not seven times, but, I tell you, seventy-seven times.”
Matthew 18:21-22 NRSV
Until Everyone Hears,